"Let me take your man card"

When I first heard of the concept of a "man card" I laughed. The idea that everyone had a man card and it could be revoked or given. I used this term every now and then as a joke, but recently I heard it and got kind of upset over it.
This person was saying that if a man has ever gotten a manicure they shouldn't be allowed to have their man card. Can you tell what got to me? It's the fact that apparently there are activities that are reserved for women only and that if a man does that it makes him less of a man. Come on dude. Come on!
There are things to be enjoyed in this world and let people enjoy them. We are changing the world with our acceptance of more feminine men and this statement just sets us back. Yes, manicures and spray tans are typically done by women, but if a man wants to do it, YOLO SWAG you go for it! And then we all just sit back and let others be happy.
This is equality, if we want to be accepted in men-dominated fields we have to allow men to do some of the more "feminine" things. It's like when you're a kid and your sister asks if she can play with your doll. Well, she didn't let you play with her doll last week so you're not going to let her play with your doll. And even if we don't get our way I think it's best that we just be kind to others. It'll encourage more kindness.
The world was made to be equal. We're all mixed together in this place so we can't say "Okay, you sit here, and I'll sit here. Don't cross this line. No, no." *Swats hand*
It's time to be okay with men crossing the line, because we're already crossing it ourselves.
Another thing I heard once was that a person was saying that when guys had snapchat best friends that are also guys she questioned them and thought it was weird. And that, my friends, is one of the dumbest things to be bothered by.
There are wars and starvation and riots going on and you're upset that a boy has a another boy as his best friend? ON SNAPCHAT! I'm best friends with my cousin, we must be doing incest. And you're best friends with another girl, does that make me question you? No! You guys just make each other laugh all the time. That's usually the point of snapchatting.
You might be thinking this is turning into a gay rights rant, but it's not. Though that is important we're still on that feminist track.
Today I want to say that equality is a two-way street. If we want to be treated as an human being by the world, we have to treat the world as human beings. It's hard not to get upset by some things, but we have to learn to be accepting.
It can even go towards women. An aggressive woman in the workforce can be perceived as a heartless bitch, which is topically how the media portrays them. But as long as they aren't actually crazy, this is good! They're doing what they're good at so PRAISE! Women like that are going out and changing the world.
It's time to step up and do what you like, even if it means stepping up and out of our comfort zone. Don't be afraid of what others will think, show and prove to them that you're the best their possibly is. They'll come around eventually, and if they don't but you still know what you're doing is good, YOLO SWAG go for it!
Remember kids: People are people, and feelings are feelings, and those things are unstoppable. So, don't let others stop you! You are great and you will win!

ATTEN HUT!

     Today we're going to take a moment to talk about soliders. They're fighters and defenders and epic and all that. But why is this a male dominated field?

     Obviously it's because all women are physically weaker than men and emotionally unstable. 

     Well, that's at least what the pentagon thinks. How great are these people? Women can't be on the frontline and do combat jobs. Because who knows what might happen up there. Women could just fall down from weakness or cry at the sight of a dead body. It's too risky. 

     Officially, they can fight, but they don't get to actually fight combat too much. Which I oppose. If a woman works hard enough and can become strong enough she can fight, a lot of women are strong enough to actually fight up their with the big boys, and they've proved themselves.

     Now, the next part of the argument is that women are too emotionally.

     Well my friend, I like to say that men and women are human. I don't know about you, but that's just my view on the world. She breathes, he breaths, and so on. And humans are emotional beings, meaning we feel emotion. So if humans feel emotions then that means women feel emotions (because, you know, they're human) and if men are humans... Oh man, they must feel emotions too.

     MIND BLOWN. 

     So what I guess I'm saying is this crazy idea is that maybe there are men out in the world who are not emotionally able to be on the front line. Whoa. It's like there's a process to get people into the combat position and that process helps decide if the person-- AKA human-- is really capable of being in combat. 

     Huh. That's a real thought provoker, ain't it?

     I'm just saying, just because one solider is a woman doesn't mean she can't have a pretty tough skin.

     We talked about this in a class one day, some people lean towards "masculine" traits, and some "feminine" traits, others are balanced between the two. You see, we took a short little test to determine this and this led to a discussion of how men don't want to have anything to do with being too "feminine."

     Sadly, those traits can appear to be the "weaker" traits and since a lot of women are more inclined to those traits women are sometimes seen as the weaker beings. But many women have developed the masculine traits, and it's not a problem. It's not a problem to be either way, (too an extent, any trait that's too much can be problematic.) but the problem is men not wanting to develop the feminine traits.
         They are far-right manly men. They don't want to be sensitive and romantic, they want to be self-reliant and realistic. And they might be these things, but let me tell you about the discussion we had as a class.
     We go to an all-girl's school, and the teacher asked for the people who had strong masculine traits. Several girls unashamedly raised their hands. But we thought about what would happen if we were at one of the all-boys schools in the area if the teacher asked for the students with strong feminine traits.
     If you guessed that no one would raise their hands, you guessed right. To them it's embarrassing to be labeled as "girly" or something of that sort because they leaned towards those traits. It makes them seem weak, or worse gay. 
    The thing is, boys, you're human. And these are human personality traits. So you're going to have a little of each, or even a lot of each. Girls have masculine traits and no problem admitting it, now it's your turn.
    Be a human, accept whatever personality you have. It's probably a fabulous one.
    So, if boys can have strong feminist traits then women can have strong masculine traits. And I bet that makes them want to do some "masculine" things. But it's frowned upon sometimes, or not as wildly popular as it should be.
    Have you ever heard of "pink collar" jobs? Because they're a thing. You could probably list a few of these jobs just off the top of your head. Teacher, nurse, etc. These are jobs women typically dominate, which is good. I'm not against women nurses or anything, but I have a problem when it comes to a point when people think these are jobs only for women.
    I remember the first time my friend's dad told me he was a nurse. I was shocked, I thought all nurses were women! But it didn't change my opinion of him. If he wanted to be a nurse, then go for it bro. Well, I don't like that as a kid I thought nurses had to be women, and that men in that field were unusual.
    If a man wants to be in a "pink collar" job, then good for him. If a woman wants to do something different, excellent. I believe I mentioned in an earlier post the quote, "Never tell your daughter she can be anything, because she should already know that." And that's what I want the world to come to.
    I want a world where girls growing up dreaming of being astronauts as well as princess, and boys teachers as well as football players. Because either gender can follow any path. The world holds many opportunities and limiting either side is just wrong.
    It starts when they're kids, playing with toys that typically teach them one trait or another. Dolls and kitchens teach kids to be compassionate and how to have conversations. Trucks and legos teach kids how to be constructive and ambitious. Telling a kid he or she can't play with one of them because they don't fall under the category of their gender is depriving them of possibilities. And the ability to become balanced in their personality. They should be invited to play with any toy they prefer, and develop life skills for the future.
    Because every kid is different. Some are more one way than the other, some are balanced.
    The point of this post is that a man can be an emotional mess, just as a woman can. But those who can handle it will go tot the front line, so let them.